hi there! welcome!

The Sleepy Bean Club is a third space for women and non-binary folks in their 20s and 30s who suffer from a diagnosed or undiagnosed chronic illness to hang out, share their experiences and receive support from others who understand the patient journey.

Think of it as a soft landing spot in a world that can be really hard to navigate when you live with a chronic illness. Part campfire games, part support group, part- finally finding people who won't find your chronic illness jokes too dark or unrelatable. We think you're funny! Come hang! 

Come as you are—pajamas, mobility aids, meds in hand—everyone here gets it. No pressure, no expectations, just a space to connect, vent, laugh, and just be with folks who understand what you're going through. We meet monthly across coffee shops and parks in San Diego. Our Event Calendar can be found below. Even if you can only manage to stop by for 5 minutes, we hope to see you at our next meetup!

upcoming events

sunday, may 25 2025

1:30-3:30pm

Maya Moon Collective

3349 Adams Ave, San Diego, CA 92116

(meet up will be held outside)

sunday, june 27 2025

1:30-3:30pm

Parakeet Cafe

1680 India St, San Diego, CA 92101

(meet up will be held outside)

sunday july 25 2025

1:30-3:30PM

Balboa Park 

Redwood Circle by Quince Street

(meet up will be held outside)

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meet the organizer!

Hi, my name is Olivia! Nice to meet you.

I had a sudden onset of chronic illness when I was 22-years-old that completely turned my life upside down. I spent a year as a “medical mystery” who struggled to be heard by medical professionals. I was lucky enough to get diagnosed in April 2021 and have since received access to medical treatment; however, my life is still far from what it once was.

Throughout the years, my friendships with fellow sicklings have been a constant source of joy and understanding. That’s where the idea for The Sleepy Bean Club was born. 

I know sometimes the thought of connecting with other chronically ill people can seem intimidating, but I guarantee you that catharsis tends to be the main emotion seen.  It's a relief to take off the forced mask of health and just be our authentic selves. We can get so inundated by the physical demands of our diseases, let alone the social ramifications, that it's easy to let go of finding true connection. 

I've experienced first hand how beautifully real and sustainable friendships among sicklings can be.  If you enjoy meeting other spoonies as much as I do, then I hope to see you at our next meetup. 

If you are having trouble contacting me, try emailing olivia.omalley@gmail.com! 

Frequently asked questions

Is my health condition a fit for this group?

If your condition is chronic (6mo+) and has affected your ability to fully participate in life, then you are a great fit for the group.

Does it cost money to participate?

This group is free to join! 

Do I have to come every month?

You’re welcome to come as frequently or infrequently as you like.

Do I have to sign up in advance?

It's not required, but the sign up link will be listed on the Events Calendar one month prior to the next meetup date. This allows me to get a head count and determine how many seats I need to save.  

That being said, I know how up and down chronic illness can be depending on the day, so if in doubt, just RSVP and no worries if you can't make it.  There's always next month! 

Can I be notified about future events?

Yes, please scroll up to join our mailing list. 

Are these events accessible? 

Yes! All events will be held outside and at allergy friendly, spacious cafes in order to make them as inclusive as possible.  If you have additional suggestions or needs, feel free to reach out and we will accommodate as much as possible. 

Is everyone welcome?

Of course! Welcome, and thank you for being here. As a queer, neurodivergent person, I want to create a space where we can show up fully and honestly. If you're queer, neurodivergent, BIPOC—or all of the above—please know you're seen, valued, and deeply welcome. We are committed to fostering a safe and respectful environment where all are seen, heard, and valued.  We will actively work to remove barriers to participation and are committed to ongoing learning and adaptation.

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